Choose to be Happy

I’ve mentioned before how I’ve decided to remove negativity from my life – this includes negative thoughts, negative or indifferent people, and those who don’t ever go out of their way for anyone else.

Since making this decision, I have started accepting invitations to things I may have said no to in the past, as well as putting myself in situations that force growth. I’ve become a regular member of a running club with very positive, supportive and inspiring people. I’ve attended a Meetup for women and again, met positive people who I’m hoping to get to know better. I accepted an invitation to a party from an acquaintance from high school, even though I haven’t actually spoken to her since I left high school, other than via Facebook.

All of these experiences have made me happy and I feel like I’ve grown a lot personally in a short time. The running group has pushed me to run farther and faster than I ever have before. The Meetup forced me to initiate conversation with someone I’d never met before and didn’t know if we’d have anything in common. The party allowed me to get reacquainted me with an old friend as well as meet some new people.

Now that my social calendar has been filling up, I realize how much the negative people in my life were suffocating me even though I didn’t quite realize it. With all of these wonderful people I’ve met lately and the new experiences I’m having, I’m so glad I made the decision to distance myself from those who try to make others feel “less than.”

In the past week, I’ve been more content than I’d been for the previous few months. I think the end of the therapeutic riding season and the decrease in my activity level because of it, caused me to start slipping toward depression and lethargy. Now that I’ve been active again, am eating better, am socializing and making time for the things I find important, I feel the way I want to feel.

I can’t stress to others enough how important it is to find your own happiness and not let anyone try to take that from you. The thing is, being happy won’t take happiness from others and being sad won’t help others be happy. It’s a hard lesson to learn sometimes, but so worth it.

“Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.” – Abraham Lincoln

Make up your mind to be happy and do the things it will take to get you there!


Seriously, if you're ever having a bad day, Google "smiling puppy" or "smiling kitten" and I bet your day gets better!

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1 Response to Choose to be Happy

  1. Abby says:

    First of all, I love the tagline of your blog. I’m rather “anti-things” as it relates to a measure of worth or happiness, so that immediately caught my eye.

    Second, even though I’m new here, I liked this post a lot. I’ve found that there are some negative people you simply cannot cut out of your life (ahem, family), but for the most part, we have much more control over the energy we bring to our days than we think. It’s important to figure out where those strains and negative forces are centered and chop them off one by one. They’re exhausting emotional vampires. People might not understand and get upset, but at the end of the day, you are in control of only your emotions and happiness, not those of anyone else!

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